Here’s a new weight loss video for every woman struggling to get below 199 on the scale (Reach ONEderland) who wants to find a plan that works for you without focusing on the number on the scale  and fast weight loss without having to watch the scale go back up again.

Hi, I’m Michelle. I help women just like you get off the weight loss rollercoaster and reach ONEderland (below 199 on the scale) and stay there.

I can help you because I was you!  Guess what? I have lost 100+ pounds 3 times in my life.  The last time, I cracked the code to 100 pound weight loss that is consistent and maintainable.  Allowing you to lose weight the way you’ll maintain it..

Here’s the scoop when it comes to weight loss…

Switch Focus From The Number On The Scale To Reach ONEderland

The number on the scale has taken so many of us off track, over and over. But in reality it’s our mindset and how we feel about ourselves that are truly taking us off track.

Here are a few tricks to help you switch focus!

• The number on the scale is just one metric of success, but we put all our focus on this one number
  
• In the big picture there is a lot more to being healthy than the number on the scale
• We need the number on the scale, to show us our success in the other area’s of getting healthy
• But creating NON-Scale goals is a true identifier of success with weight loss
• Try creating goals that have nothing to do with the scale and track your success there
• Don’t overwrite all your habits at once.
  

Now, if you’re a woman struggling to get below 199 on the scale  who is committed to really make this work for you, let me invite you to hop on the waitlist list for ONEder-Sister’s Inner Circle- there is a special bonus mini class there for you to help you start changing your focus at ONEder-Sisters Inner Circle so you can  and fast weight loss instantly… without having to watch the scale go back up again!

Big-Take-Aways For Staying Consistent and Reaching ONEderland!

So, here are the big takeaways for every woman struggling to get below 199 on the scale and reach ONEderland  from today’s video:

1. Fast weight loss is not permanent weight loss, switching your focus from the number on the scale is the first step to actually reaching your goal weight.
2. Being discourage by the speed of your weight loss, says you are only focused on the number on the scale.  It’s time to change your focus to NON-scale healthy goals.
3. NON-Scale healthy goals will help the number on the scale go down, and emotionally it will help you feel small successes over time.

The big takeaway here is that you can stay on track when the scale depresses you and takes you off track without having to watch the scale go back up again.

Every diet I ever started, started with a weight loss goal… I wasn’t looking for a healthy diet for weight loss.    

Until the last one.  

My last weight loss journey I was terrified to set a weight loss goal for fear of failure.

I lost the first 90 pounds, 5 pounds at a time. 

And I totally focused on non-scale goals that had nothing to do with the horrible device.  ;)  

Don’t get me wrong the scale is an important TOOL for weight loss, but it doesn’t dictate what is healthy and what isn’t

Goals are really important but scale goals only will stop you from reaching your goal weight loss goal…

Creating a healthy diet for weight loss sounds so easy… but when the word diet is included nothing is easy!

So why should you really focus on the “Healthy” portion instead of the “diet” portion of that phrase?  We are going to go through this so hang out and see how this might work for you!

Healthy Diet for Weight Loss:  Focus on the Healthy

When you have 100 pounds or more to lose focusing on the “scale goal” and doing yet another diet feels like a life sucking mess!

This is what causes that horrible roller coaster of weight loss.

We go “ALL IN” changing EVERYTHING… then life happens, and our all in hasn’t become part of who we are yet, so we go completely OFF THE RAILS.

Instead focusing on small non-scale healthy goals, allows us to “become” that person we so want to become.

One of the early things I tracked was eating healthy portions.  Tracking the healthy portion gives us a trackable maintainable goal. It doesn’t depend on eating kale for success.

There are a lot of “things” we can do that are healthy.  We can focus on things like, water consumption, the number of steps we can take, or on healthy sized portions regardless of the food we are consuming.

I know focusing on “healthy” may not sound exciting.  But it kept me consistent and it helped me maintain once I reached my goal.

Healthy Diet for Weight Loss: Focusing on the Number on the Scale Is Overwhelming and Depressing

Every time I focused on the number on the scale, I would get overwhelmed and depressed.  100 pounds to lose feels like a lot of weight.

But and this is important, weighing is important.  Without weighing we don’t know if we are making progress.  

The number on the scale does not define YOU, but it is a marker that is necessary on your weight loss journey.

So this is the part of the weight loss journey where you separate who you are from the number on the scale. 

When we focus on the non-scale goals and only use the number on the scale as a single piece of data that helps us figure out how well our healthy diet for weight loss is working.

Healthy Diet for Weight Loss: How Can You Find Non-scale Goals to Create a Healthy Diet for Weight Loss

The first step to this is ditching your preconceived notion of “diet”.  Let’s look at instead how to make this permanent!

In reality a diet is what you eat and how you fuel your body.  It’s not a short term thing you do to lose a few pounds (or a lot of pounds).

So going into the journey you can look for healthy goals that you can add to your day. Instead of looking for foods to remove from your day

I can’t tell you what your healthy goals will be.  For me I added water and tracked it, and got rid of boxed food for myself and my family. And finally I tracked my portion sizes.

This started off my weight loss journey and as I felt comfortable with these new habits, I added walking.  Then because I totally HATED veggies, I started adding veggies to my meals.

Each of these non-scale goals helped me take my fast food, boxed food loving life and convert it to a healthy diet.

Are you ready to do a conversion?  It’s not as hard as it sounds when you address the mindset issues that have you reaching for food to solve all the problems of life.

More on that later… For now…

Let’s Close This Out…

Non-scale goals give you power in your weight loss journey.  You can build your own definition of a healthy diet for weight loss by defining your version of “healthy”.

You don’t have to live on Kale smoothies and chia seeds to be healthy and lose weight.

So often we jump with both feet into total change, and then wonder why we can’t stay on track.

The secret to staying consistent in your weight loss journey and then maintaining that weight loss is small changes over time that you can live with permanently.

If you want to learn how to create small goals jump into my Free 5 Day Challenge coming up mid February. We spend a week learning how to break our healthy goals into small habits and how to track those goals for permanent weight loss.

I started my 100 pound weight loss journey not overly impressed with myself or my ability to lose weight, and I honestly hated myself. And I truly didn’t understand the concept of self love.  

Now I had one thing besides my family that I took pride in, and that was being successful in my career.  I was proud of the field I was in and my place in it.

But with regards to me, looking at myself in the mirror was incredibly painful.  I basically grossed myself out. The words in my head were mean and nasty, and I would go off plan and beat myself up for days…. I didn’t provide myself any form of unconditional self love.  Unfortunately, I reserved all the unconditional love for my kids and hubby.

This mental beating was this biggest issue in my consistent 100 pound weight loss.  It  caused me to go off track over and over throughout many years.

To overcome this I had to make some adjustments and learn to love me where I was.   This was the path to reaching my goals.

Overcoming this mental beating is what allowed me to successfully reach my 100 pound weight loss goal.

To get here I had to learn to love me where I was and stop beating myself up for being human.  If you are busy telling yourself all the horrible things you’re doing, how are you going to know when you’re doing something good?

Question… Do you praise yourself for the good times or just beat yourself up when you’re not perfect?  Where’s your focus?

What you focus on is what happens and it’s what you see.

Now this became a big deal, because I would go off track and then eat for days because I went off track once… so if this is you, listen up!

​Self Love Comes from Being Curious about Your 100 Pound Weight Loss

Are ya ready? 

The first step is being curious.  

It’s time to  figure out why you go off track initially.  For me, it was usually exposure, or coping with stress and anxiety.  In my case, I wasn’t skilled at navigating events where food was freely available, or dealing with life events.

Maybe you also eat to cope with life’s stresses, or your anxiety.

And let’s not forget eating because of anger, or sadness or even loneliness.

Finally a big one for me was, I used food to cope with these emotions instead of dealing with them.  I would eat because I messed up.

Taking time to invest in this step allows you to understand why you’re having issues with your 100 pound weight loss journey.  

Usually the question I get now is: “But how did you use self love to overcome and actually lose 120 pounds and keep it off?”  

We are going to talk about this over the next couple of sections.  ?

Use Self Love To Be Gentle to Yourself for Your 100 Pound Weight Loss

​Okay, so now I knew why, I was curious and I actually paid attention as I was going off track.  I journaled and watched what I was doing almost from afar…

In order to move past this, I needed to basically parent myself and figure out how to express my feelings

I know it sounds difficult, but picture parenting a 2 year old that accidentally spilt a glass of milk.

Being gentle with yourself is key, particularly if you are eating in response to emotions.  

Giving yourself gentle love as you figure out why and then teaching yourself a new way were the only way I could lose 100 pounds and keep it off.

How do you teach yourself? 

I did it by brainstorming options… I tried to come up with new ways to deal with my emotions.  I had conversations in my head and journaled about other ways I could deal with a specific situation.

To be honest… there isn’t a blanket solution.  Your solution for stress eating is going to be different than mine, but the process to find that solution is going to be the same…

One process is to journal options for the specific situation.

We spend a lot of time working on unique solutions to this in the 100 Pound Weight Loss Formula, my group coaching program for 100 pound weight loss.

Self Love in the Form ofGiving Yourself Grace for Your 100 Pound Weight Loss

Now let’s talk about one of the most important parts of the process.  ;) I figured out this growth process with trial and error, I had to give myself grace when I didn’t quite do perfect.

Guess what happened…

As I started giving myself grace for not being perfect I started losing weight.

Notice I didn’t say I stopped messing up and I started losing, because I continued to mess up and I still do.

But now when I don’t stick to my plan perfectly I stop and look at why. 

And then I start right where I am and I return to my plan.  I don’t eat for days, or starve myself because I ate extra handfuls of granola when I make my yogurt. 

I simply start my very next meal like nothing happened at all.

Giving yourself grace is a big part of self love.  This is the step that allows you to be human.

Let’s Close This Out…

Being curious, gently correcting your course and giving yourself grace are the 3 keys to 100 pound weight loss and then maintaining the loss after the fact.

I’m saying stop using your imperfection as an excuse to keep eating.  It’s an excuse. And don’t beat yourself up, when you aren’t perfect. These just keep you eating, and it’s causing the weight loss rollercoaster.

Are you using stress as an excuse to eat.  Are you then beating yourself up because you stress eat.  Do you follow this up with a ton of extra eating for days?

This is just one example I see all the time.  So instead get curious, gently teach yourself a new way and give yourself grace when you aren’t perfect.

These steps will allow you to implement self love on your weight loss journey instead of trying to bully yourself into losing weight.  (This doesn’t work BTW… I tried it MANY times)